Online preparation, a very useful guide that the school can offer parents

Online hairdressing. A very useful vademecum has been published for parents who cannot be left alone in the arduous task of educating.

State police have published a useful handbook involving parents. They should also be supported and guided by schools.

Online grooming (children’s hairdressing), the phenomenon has not disappeared

Online hairdressing. The pandemic and now the Russian-Ukrainian conflict are obscuring the problem. Especially during the confinement (confinement) the phenomenon has had a worrying increase, also favored by the proliferation of video games that involve contacts, interaction chats … This is how the Postal Police certifies that with the contribution of the National Center of Contrast to online child pornography (CNCPO) in Rome, highlighted an exponential increase in the phenomenon in 2020 which stands at + 110% over the same period of the year.

The phenomenon is not always understood due to English-speaking expression children’s hairdresser. It is well known that the use of the English language is intended not to imply the meaning of an apparatus or part of a vehicle. In our case, the use is out of place and very negative, as it does not facilitate attention and reflection on a very worrying phenomenon. In short, the definition of children’s hairdresser contextualizes priming, linking it more to chat or social media (let’s forget about Facebook now abandoned by children and young people). It is outstanding the type of coupling which takes advantage of the weaknesses of the under-16s. Obviously, the person initiating such actions is a social engineering expert who carefully studies the potential victim until they identify their weaknesses or the mood they are going through. So the prostitute or groomer is a sophisticated expert in the world of youth. The evolution continues although some coordinates linked to the human condition remain certain points: the fragility and weaknesses linked to youth that are well linked to the condition of the creatures, declined in loneliness and emptiness, amplified by the pandemic and its side effects on the juvenile psyche. and beyond.

A useful manual that empowers the adult

State police, who have always been in the trenches to combat physical and online harassment, obviously continually update their performance, suggesting and advising adults. To this end, a vademecum against online grooming has been published. The intention is to keep adults ’attention on new trends. Attention is paid, in the first place, to parents who, by the Constitution (art. 30), present themselves as the first educators of their children. Any delegation to other institutions is out of place, not allowed by the Charter.
The premise explains its involvement in the vademecum.

Delete recipients and purpose “This Guide aims to be a useful tool for parents and adults with parental responsibility for children, girls and preadolescents, at a historical and social time when the relationship with digital technologies characterizes many of our life experiences, including parenting. The impact of the Covid-19 pandemic on increasing the use of technology was evident: it broadened its use and further lowered the age range of those accessing digital environments, but this happened suddenly and urgently, in the absence of the necessary preparation. . Alongside the opportunities for digital innovation, there is also exposure to specific risks, a condition that requires a lot of attention and that here we have decided to focus on a specific topic. In fact, the Guide wants to delve into the phenomenon of online grooming (also called “online grooming”), unfortunately in constant diffusion.

According to this line, the vademecum always presents two subjects: the child and the parent. The age of interest of the brochure starts from 0 to 6 years, then unfolds to 13 years. We obviously start with a series of questions for young parents about the opportunity to post photos. own puppy, remembering that any trace published on the Web remains forever. The year of conclusion is not chosen by chance, as the new Italian Privacy Code (decree 101/18) attributes to the child a certain maturity and autonomy.
The tips in the case of online hairdressing, revealed by your child, are of some interest

here they are

1) Keep calm
2) Let him talk and ask him to book with friends
3) Ask questions without judging
4) Don’t blame your child even if he’s wrong, be reckless or impulsive
5) Don’t delete photos, contacts, chats on your child’s smartphone / tablet / computer
6) Do not substitute yourself in contacts with the unknown person
7) Go to a Postal Police office or contact as soon as possible


The educational institution can do a lot, confirming its role in supporting families. In the event of this, the principle set out in the delegated decrees of educating community. Adults need positively proactive they resume the educational management of children. The company is difficult because on the other side there are a number of subjects, agencies that are heavily conditioned by the market. They are the market that uses very effective techniques to achieve the goal!

That said, what are the possible school interventions?

First of all, to disseminate the vademecum through the institutional website, the social pages related to the Institute. It is important to accompany this post with a few lines of commentary or introduction and support it all with an image. The writing conveys the idea that the school has the problem at heart, while the image has the function of drawing attention.

The publication is effective if the school is the bearer of a project to combat online bullying and the risks of the network that is expressed through regular meetings with children. These moments can be managed by the anti-bullying contact person and their work group (anti-bullying team). Compared to Law 71/17 (on the fight against cyberbullying), the actions of the security forces become more collegial, both in terms of technical and computer aspects, as well as psychological, health and educational aspects. “the Anti-Bullying Team formed by the Director, the bullying-cyberbullying referent (s), the digital animator and other professionals present at the school (psychologist, pedagogue).this, social and health workers) ” (New guidelines, January 13, 2021).

However, the diversification and complexity of the phenomena demands a rise in level, involving other levels of the social context. So here is the support of the “Emergency team, also through purpose networks, made up of specialized figures from the territory, to encourage the involvement of other educational and child protection bodies, security forces, health services, educational structures. “

It is possible to enrich the school project by offering students the course of the license to use the smartphone, following the thread of the three modules: 1) I know my device; 2) how I use my device and applications; 3) I protect myself. the project was successfully launched in the regions of Piedmont and Umbria. However, there is nothing to prevent individual schools (preferably members of the consortium) from signing an educational pact with the local authority or the USR to give even a minimum legal validity to the license.

These and others can be school initiatives. The problem is the parents. Almost always absent on this front, only to become aware of the problem when your child is involved.

Ad hoc meetings for them almost always pick up a low level of membership. To avoid this criticality, “windows” can be proposed in times of greater presence such as interclasses, class meetings …

In conclusion, we need to prevent our boys from being so educated from the Net, from the mass media or from the tam tam of equals.

It is urgent that parents re-educate their children. The alternatives are often before our eyes in a spectacular way

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